He’s not wrong. ********** Not very long ago, my monogamous partner of nine months and I broke up. There were so many reasons for this, the fact that he is monogamous and I am polyamorous was just one of many. The wild part is, we never fought, we hardly ever disagreed, and we freaking enjoyed…
Tag: relationship intimacy
I have had the idea for this post about the risk of love for a while, but since today is Valentine’s Day and I have a little time to sit here and write, I figured now was a good time. A stone’s throw from Jerusalem I walked a lonely mile in the moonlight And though…
Vulnerable and Insecure: So- I tweeted earlier that I hadn’t written this post yet (I have been trying to be one day ahead but I was PRETTY hungover yesterday and not really able to get a post together…) but I was feeling vulnerable and insecure today, and I knew I really should talk about it,…
When we first started dating, my boyfriend, Said, was new to being in a polyamorous relationship. He started from a really open and curious place as a swinger and his love style definitely includes being happy (and turned on) when his partner is happy, so polyamory wasn’t a difficult concept for him to adopt. We…
I just moved back to the United States at the end of the summer. That means new adventures and much excitement around finding a place of my own here. It also means after 6 years of traveling and not owning much more than two suitcases full of stuff, completely furnishing a 1,400 sq. ft apartment…
We’re making love. I watch as DJDM covers my soft fluffy body with his lean hard one. His muscles are tense as he lowers his face in order to… Bite me! I laugh out loud, flip out from under him, and somehow we end up in this wrestling position. Neither one of us is willing…
****** I have been putting off posting this, it is a bit more vulnerable than maybe my usual. I am realizing this week, my first week back with DJDM, just how true it is and how much I really want to be better at this aspect of my life!****** ********** I was snuggling on the…
It seems like life is always about ending and beginning again. A few weeks ago on social media, there was a wave of posts asking “What have you accomplished or how have you changed over the past decade?” There is no way I could talk about the ways my life has changed in the past…
This morning I had a bit of a revelation about me and autonomy. Some things that seem normal and healthy to most people are not always easy to recognize or do for those of us who have learned dysfunctional relationship styles throughout their lives. Happily, I noticed one area I feel I have improved in…
When I saw this tweet from the darling and fellow Polyam Violet Fawkes, I knew I really did have to finally write this post. *********** As many of you know, I am in a relationship with two men who live in Germany. (I just realized it’s almost time to do another quarterly post about the…