Do we need to sleep together in the same bed to have a good relationship? The idea of Separate But Together is one of my most beloved relationship concepts, yet the one that often feels the furthest from being a reality. The cultural idea of relationships doesn’t leave much room (literally) for the idea that…
Tag: relationship evolution
Building a Mono-Poly Relationship Last summer, my partner Dex and I broke up. You can read more about that here. But in case you don’t want to read all that, here’s a brief rundown. We limped on together while I was away in Berlin, acting like we were just friends, but pretty much texting and…
Last Valentine’s Day I wrote a post about love. Love is Worth the Risk I figured maybe I would make it a tradition and get another blog post up on Valentine’s Day- about Love, about the same man, Dex, about whom part of that other post was written. You see for the better part of the…
Problem: We want different things from life and relationships, but we love each other. Solution: Break up but stay friends. Problem: He has a new girlfriend, she’s monogamous and insecure. Solution: Break up again and cut all ties. Problem: My heart hurts. Solution: Time. Problem: Time is not an immediate help. Solution: Lots of random…
I’ve been thinking a lot about love lately. Being in Berlin with Stefan, having recently been in a break-up with Dex. Having more chances than usual to talk about what does polyamory and non-monogamy in general mean to me. It all comes down to love. But as I have learned on this journey- love means…
Do I Have to be Grateful? The Karens on Instagram would have you believe that prayers and pop-up gratitude parties will make a difference or change your life. But I call bullshit. I mean, come on! I’ve done the 30-Days of Gratitude and every morning “meditated” on something lovely. That was nice, but when the…
***** I love my Wednesday writing group and have decided to post what I come up with on Wednesday’s here on the blog- especially since lately it seems like the only writing I am actually doing each week is in group. So I hope you enjoy this little story inspired by this quote: ******** …
Thank you. Thank you. My Polyam People, Boyfriend, Friends, Swingers, Polycule Members, and my Fellow Bloggers and Readers: Eight months ago I embarked on a new journey, another phase in the long stretch of time called “My Life.” It was an exciting but unexpected twist to the plot I had designed for myself. Thoroughly unexpected…
I have had the idea for this post about the risk of love for a while, but since today is Valentine’s Day and I have a little time to sit here and write, I figured now was a good time. A stone’s throw from Jerusalem I walked a lonely mile in the moonlight And though…
“We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.” – Tom Robbins I am still reeling from my breakup, but I still have plenty of hope and expectation of love. I always say “love is worth the risk,” and I mean it. I always have. Even when I know it…