Sunshine, Freedom, and a Little Flower

“Just living is not enough,” said the butterfly, “one must have sunshine, freedom, and a little flower.” ― Hans Christian Anderson When I came across this quote, the first thing I pictured was sitting by the canal in Copenhagen, enjoying the warm fall sunshine on my shoulders, eating an amazing smorgasbord of herring, salmon, pickled veggies, and…

The Ending and a Beginning

It seems like life is always about ending and beginning again. A few weeks ago on social media, there was a wave of posts asking “What have you  accomplished or how have you changed over the past decade?” There is no way I could talk about the ways my life has changed in the past…

Back Again, in Medellin

Flying the short distance from Bogota to Medellin, I am reminded once again how incredibly mountainous and empty this country is. The rugged landscape spreads below me partly under the clouds, partly peeking out through them. I have been thinking about the city, the small tienditas, the panaderias, the people sitting outside the drinks shop…

I Fall in Love, Just a Little ol’ Little Bit

[embedyt] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bPJSsAr2iu0[/embedyt] (This song is my theme song on my Tinder profile. No one can say I didn’t warn them!) ********** If you know me, you know I am ‘famous’ for saying, “Love is worth the risk.” I especially love the beginning, that NRE (New Relationship Energy) is addicting and something that I can enjoy…

Manipulation in Medellin

It’s not uncommon these days, to read about women who are victims of manipulation or gaslighting. People they love who claim to love them, try to manipulate them into believing that they are a bit crazy, that they’ve lost all perspective. Sometimes I can see elements of this type of manipulation in my relationship with…

The Big G of Dating: Ghosting

GHOSTING You pretty much can’t date in today’s internet world without experiencing ghosting. We talk about it like it is a normal thing. ‘Oh, he ghosted me/you.’ The ease with which technology allows us to be immature and unkind to one another can be a little scary.  Current “Ghosting” Stories Since I’ve been here in…

Conflicted Consent

Cw: Consent, Non-Consent & Sexual Pressure My date was as hot as advertised and even a little taller than me, which was an unexpected bonus. He met my flatmate and her date while we all hung out on the patio, going back and forth between private and group discussions. He was smart, interesting, and sexy….