Sex and Polyamory

Why is sex and polyamory so often equated with being promiscuous? I was texting with a potential date on Tinder today. He was flirting with me and I was enjoying the casual banter. Then he asked me to meet up for some sexy times. (He told me in one of the first sentences that he…

Men and Love

I see a man walking across the parking lot. He is of normal height, and he doesn’t stand out to me as anyone “special.” He’s holding his girlfriend’s hand and laughing. They get to the car, and he pulls her to him in an embrace, still smiling, he kisses her forehead, opens the door, and…

I Am Having Feels

I recently told my monogamous partner that it is normal to have “feels” when your partner meets someone new. Even the most experienced polyamorous people can have some wobbles and stress when they realize their partner is connecting with someone new. Not everyone is filled with compersion the minute they find out about these situations….

Baby, Babe, Sweetie, Love

Do you have a nickname in your relationship(s)? Are there cute little pet names you call each other? I have been called Babe, Honey, Sweetie, Amor, Amorcito, Kiddo, Love… My current beau, Dex, calls me Babe. He even bought me a pink baseball cap that says Babe on it. My ex in Colombia, Said, called…

Chasing Orgasms

Earlier this month I read a piece on orgasms by the amazing Girl on the Net (GOTN) (If you haven’t read her blog it is a pure gold mine of sex and relationship content. Some of my erotica has been featured as audio porn on her site! I highly recommend you check her out!) I read…

Before and After

Everyone has a time before and a time after. A way to delineate how life has moved forward for them… there is no going back. There is light in that liminal space between now and then, maybe the knowledge we seek hides in the not quite real construct of time. (Maybe not.) I think the…

Problem Solution

Problem:  We want different things from life and relationships, but we love each other. Solution: Break up but stay friends. Problem: He has a new girlfriend, she’s monogamous and insecure. Solution: Break up again and cut all ties. Problem: My heart hurts. Solution: Time. Problem: Time is not an immediate help. Solution: Lots of random…