As I thought about the theme for this Kink of the Week, I thought about the many different connotations I could bring to the topic of Exhibition that I learned from my life in Berlin. Many of you have read other posts of mine, and you know that living in Berlin was transformational, and I…
Tag: cultivating intimacy
****** I have been putting off posting this, it is a bit more vulnerable than maybe my usual. I am realizing this week, my first week back with DJDM, just how true it is and how much I really want to be better at this aspect of my life!****** ********** I was snuggling on the…
I find it hard to believe, both that I have been writing this blog long enough for this be my second year-end wrap-up of my Polycule, and that I have been polyamorous long enough to have almost 2 years of writing about it under my belt. So- without further ado… the 2019 Polycule- Wrap-up. Overview…
[embedyt] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bPJSsAr2iu0[/embedyt] (This song is my theme song on my Tinder profile. No one can say I didn’t warn them!) ********** If you know me, you know I am ‘famous’ for saying, “Love is worth the risk.” I especially love the beginning, that NRE (New Relationship Energy) is addicting and something that I can enjoy…
I had been dating Stefan for at least a year in person and we had been together close to two years total. We had been fluid bonded already (not using protection during sex) for almost that whole year. But we had never had a conversation about safer sex, STI status, STI testing, or condom use…
If I could say the things I feel, open my heart fully and let my mouth follow, I would say things that might scare you. You don’t like to talk about our emotions and feelings. It’s enough for you to know we check in regularly and spend time together weekly. It’s enough to know that…
I was looking at the meme- Food for Thought Friday and this week’s prompt was something I felt I could contribute to. The prompt this week is: Sexual relationships come in all flavors; casual or committed, mono or poly, and all shades and variations in between. Relationships also evolve and change over time. A casual…
I know, weird title, but stick with me here. Sometime over the past two and a half years we have been seeing each other, I have started to refer to him as a location. I tell my friends: “I’ll go to Stefan tonight.” “I went to Stefan this week.” “Well, let’s see if I’m going…
Earlier this year, I wrote a piece on Medium that was curated in Relationships called “The Evolution of a Polycule.” I thought it might be interested to write an end of the year version, updating on the last few months. Next year I might make it a monthly thing, tracking how my relationships ebb and…
People think that intimacy is about sex. But intimacy is about truth. When you realize that you can tell someone your truth, when you can show yourself to them, when you stand in front of them and their response is “You’re safe with me.” -that’s intimacy. -Taylor Jenkins Reid I saw this quote on a…