I recently told my monogamous partner that it is normal to have “feels” when your partner meets someone new. Even the most experienced polyamorous people can have some wobbles and stress when they realize their partner is connecting with someone new. Not everyone is filled with compersion the minute they find out about these situations….
Tag: Conflict in relationships
Earlier this month I read a piece on orgasms by the amazing Girl on the Net (GOTN) (If you haven’t read her blog it is a pure gold mine of sex and relationship content. Some of my erotica has been featured as audio porn on her site! I highly recommend you check her out!) I read…
Building a Mono-Poly Relationship Last summer, my partner Dex and I broke up. You can read more about that here. But in case you don’t want to read all that, here’s a brief rundown. We limped on together while I was away in Berlin, acting like we were just friends, but pretty much texting and…
Problem: We want different things from life and relationships, but we love each other. Solution: Break up but stay friends. Problem: He has a new girlfriend, she’s monogamous and insecure. Solution: Break up again and cut all ties. Problem: My heart hurts. Solution: Time. Problem: Time is not an immediate help. Solution: Lots of random…
He’s not wrong. ********** Not very long ago, my monogamous partner of nine months and I broke up. There were so many reasons for this, the fact that he is monogamous and I am polyamorous was just one of many. The wild part is, we never fought, we hardly ever disagreed, and we freaking enjoyed…
“We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.” – Tom Robbins I am still reeling from my breakup, but I still have plenty of hope and expectation of love. I always say “love is worth the risk,” and I mean it. I always have. Even when I know it…
It gets worse before it gets better: I was really determined at first to blog every day, but yesterday, I really needed the day off. I spent most of the morning ugly crying and even today in a quiet moment at the hair salon, I could have started crying again. Now that I am officially…
Well, you probably knew it was coming even though I thought I could hold it off indefinitely. I mean, all the things I mentioned about how our relationship was and had been going surely gave everyone around me the signs… heck I knew they were there but the pandemic lockdown and my desire to keep…
“We had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.” – Louis de Bernieres. Frequently, current cultural romantic ideas really drive me up the wall. I just sent a tweet tonight about how the jealousy…
“We don’t tell other people what goes on in this house.” -Mom I grew up in a house that was full of secrets and lies. I would be mostly grown before I realized that keeping secrets wasn’t normal. The things that happened behind our closed doors not only shouldn’t have happened but probably would have…