I have often said I think it’s important for us to talk about sex more, make it a more normal topic of general conversation instead of hiding talk of it behind closed doors and making people ashamed to discuss it. I feel the same way about getting older. I will be 50 this summer and…
Do you have a nickname in your relationship(s)? Are there cute little pet names you call each other? I have been called Babe, Honey, Sweetie, Amor, Amorcito, Kiddo, Love… My current beau, Dex, calls me Babe. He even bought me a pink baseball cap that says Babe on it. My ex in Colombia, Said, called…
My journey to non-monogamy, specifically polyamory, as a relationship orientation and lifestyle has been one of the most rewarding of the many I have undertaken. I believe I have learned more about myself, who I truly am, than ever. I have developed lifelong skills that help me navigate complex relationship structures. I am not perfect-…
So, finally I feel like my life is “sufficiently polyamorous” again to post regular quarterly polycule updates. Don’t get me wrong, I am always “sufficiently polyamorous” partnered or not, but currently my life and relationships are actually reflecting that reality again. ********** Stefan It’s hard to update on our relationship, when I haven’t seen him…
Earlier this month I read a piece on orgasms by the amazing Girl on the Net (GOTN) (If you haven’t read her blog it is a pure gold mine of sex and relationship content. Some of my erotica has been featured as audio porn on her site! I highly recommend you check her out!) I read…
Too often in our culture, we are made to believe that we are not enough. Not thin enough, not smart enough, not rich enough… just not enough. We go through our lives always trying to BE more. Be cuter, be more popular, be special. What a mess that is. Just by being alive, you are…
Building a Mono-Poly Relationship Last summer, my partner Dex and I broke up. You can read more about that here. But in case you don’t want to read all that, here’s a brief rundown. We limped on together while I was away in Berlin, acting like we were just friends, but pretty much texting and…
Everyone has a time before and a time after. A way to delineate how life has moved forward for them… there is no going back. There is light in that liminal space between now and then, maybe the knowledge we seek hides in the not quite real construct of time. (Maybe not.) I think the…
The prompt at our writing group this week was Seashells. I don’t usually find a direct line from the prompt to my writing but this time- I hit it right on. So here’s a quick little 15-minute flash writing for you. ********** The thing about a seashell is that even though to me a shell…
Last Valentine’s Day I wrote a post about love. Love is Worth the Risk I figured maybe I would make it a tradition and get another blog post up on Valentine’s Day- about Love, about the same man, Dex, about whom part of that other post was written. You see for the better part of the…