I Am Having Feels

I recently told my monogamous partner that it is normal to have “feels” when your partner meets someone new. Even the most experienced polyamorous people can have some wobbles and stress when they realize their partner is connecting with someone new. Not everyone is filled with compersion the minute they find out about these situations….

Having a Story

We all have a story! ********** The other day, I was talking to a friend and he said something along the lines of “I wish I knew then, what I know now.” He was referring to being more confident in relationships and being more comfortable with flirting and sexual situations. It was a fun chat…

Facing the Facts

Facing the facts about my comet relationship. Today’s post is brought to you by the letter F. I really love that I have written every day this month. I know it’s only the 6th, but I haven’t been this consistent in a long time, and it hasn’t even been too much of a challenge to…

Expectations

We all have expectations. We have the ones that were placed on us and we have the ones we place on ourselves and others. All of these can be confusing, exhausting, and sometimes comforting or helpful at various times and stages of our life. Growing up in a very strict American Evangelical home meant there…

Baby, Babe, Sweetie, Love

Do you have a nickname in your relationship(s)? Are there cute little pet names you call each other? I have been called Babe, Honey, Sweetie, Amor, Amorcito, Kiddo, Love… My current beau, Dex, calls me Babe. He even bought me a pink baseball cap that says Babe on it. My ex in Colombia, Said, called…

Advice for the Newly Non-Monogamous

My journey to non-monogamy, specifically polyamory, as a relationship orientation and lifestyle has been one of the most rewarding of the many I have undertaken. I believe I have learned more about myself, who I truly am, than ever. I have developed lifelong skills that help me navigate complex relationship structures. I am not perfect-…

Evolution of a Polycule- 1st Qtr 2022

So, finally I feel like my life is “sufficiently polyamorous” again to post regular quarterly polycule updates. Don’t get me wrong, I am always “sufficiently polyamorous” partnered or not, but currently my life and relationships are actually reflecting that reality again. ********** Stefan It’s hard to update on our relationship, when I haven’t seen him…

Chasing Orgasms

Earlier this month I read a piece on orgasms by the amazing Girl on the Net (GOTN) (If you haven’t read her blog it is a pure gold mine of sex and relationship content. Some of my erotica has been featured as audio porn on her site! I highly recommend you check her out!) I read…