Live Together, Sleep Together?

Do we need to sleep together in the same bed to have a good relationship? The idea of Separate But Together is one of my most beloved relationship concepts, yet the one that often feels the furthest from being a reality. The cultural idea of relationships doesn’t leave much room (literally) for the idea that…

Sentimental Things

When I was preparing to write this blog post, I KNEW there had to be a song out there about “Sentimental Things.” It was surprisingly more difficult to find than I had imagined. But Donna King came to the rescue. It’s not my typical style of music- but it conveys the message I was thinking…

Top Posts – 2022

It is almost that time of year- the Top 100 Sex Bloggers are being nominated! That usually means there are a few more eyes than usual on our sites as people scope out their favorite bloggers to nominate. I thought if there are any new readers- or those of you who have been long-time readers…

Go Easy on Yourself

Having Grace With Ourselves I was talking to a new friend last night. We sat in a cool Berlin cafe/bar called Kapitalist. The facade is torn up stucco, and there is no sign marking this was it. There are tables outside, and the bar is lovely, but that is where they stopped with “decorating.” The…

Berlin Again

Berlin. Yes, Berlin! You know, if you’ve even casually looked at the titles of the posts on this blog, that Berlin is a central theme in my life. From the first day I visited here, August 1, 2016, until now, I have been in love- with the city. It’s gritty and real. Everyone wears black,…

Am I a Serial Polyamorist?

The question popped into my head recently: I am a “Serial Polyamorist?” Hmmm. We all know what a serial monogamist is… What Does “Serial Monogamy” Mean?- Serial monogamy is a relationship style that involves having a series of monogamous (often long-term) relationships, rather than taking solo breaks or casually dating in between. Serial monogamists feel more…

Am I Megasexual?

The other day I was re-introduced to a phrase I had heard and identified with before but hadn’t really thought much about in the time since- megasexual. For some reason, this time it resonated with me more than the last time, and I had some thoughts. As you know, when I have “thoughts,” I tend…